#105 - Prioritizing Your Priorities
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On this week’s episode along with checking in + a segment we're calling 'Allowance High/Low', we start a conversation about prioritizing our priorities.
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Another fall ... its coming ... again ...
The start of fall feels like a mini-New Years. Starting a new calendar, starting school, work picks back up, heck, life picks back up.
If you're anything like us, you enter a new season with good intentions. "This fall everything is going to be different. I'm going to get up early, make breakfast everyday, exercise consistently, be present for my kids when they get home or with my husband in the evening. I'm going to clean. I'm joining a book club, no, I'm starting a book club, no, I'M GOING TO WRITE A BOOK!"
But ... before the leaves start to change, the good intentions have gone out the window and the new season feels like all the ones that have come before: busyness, stress, tired, too many nights out. Too much to do and not enough time to do it.
Why does this happen? Why, when we want so bad for things to be different, when we want so bad for what's important to take center stage, does it feel like we just can't make change happen? There are probably a bunch of different reasons, but in our lives there are 2 main culprits.
We try to change too much at once. It's hard to go from 0-60 when it comes to making our lives more like what we want them to be like. It's like being handed a 200lb weight to carry around when you're not used to carrying anything. No wonder attempts at new habits get dropped so quickly.
We spend time scheduling in what we have to do / need to do / feel obligated to do and think that the stuff that matters will happen in the in-between times if we do a good job scheduling everything else.
But, what actually ends up happening is the stuff that matters most to us (think faith, family, friends - all the big 'f's'), ends up getting squeezed out because we're either too tired from everything else or don't have the margin in our schedules for it to happen.
This fall, we invite you into our journey of trying to do it different. This fall, we're going to 'Prioritize our Priorities'. We are going to try to put what's most important in the schedule first to make sure that if something gets dropped, its not going to be our top-priorities. Annie Dillard says, "How we spend our days is, of course, how we spend our lives." Here's to making our days something we can be proud of.
Here's our plan to start:
In the next week, we are going to sit down and decide what our top priorities are in life (think big stuff, like the Big F's, taking care of ourselves, helping other people, etc.).
For each priority, we're going to set just 1 goal for how we want to see it improve/move more to center stage this next season.
We'll put each priority in the calendar - no more leaving the most important stuff in the margins.
Why just 1 goal? Einstein (maybe) says that the definition of insanity is trying to do the same thing over and over again and expecting different results. When we try to change too much at once it has always set us up for failure - how about you? So, we're starting small and hoping that a few small things, done consistently, will result in big changes over time.
We’re in a ton of transition in our life with work, we could get a call about a baby we could adopt any day … and we’ve traditionally been really bad at this. So, if nothing else, we hope that looking in on our journey can be entertaining for you as we try to hack our way through this.
How does fall feel for you?
Do you know what your priorities are?
What if this fall you created some peace for yourself by knowing what was important and having at least one way you were going to make what’s most important a priority this next season?
Find our worksheet on priorities to get started.